Free yourself from the psychological structure of society, which is to free yourself from the essence of conflict. –Jiddu Krishnamurti
Disconnection: There’s no disconnection like real disconnection. Leaving the body behind during my near-death experience gave me a perspective that I never imagined possible as an agnostic. I carried none of my wounds to other side. I was free as a bird, curious as a child, and smart as a dolphin outside of my body.
My consciousness survived, but I no longer had a deep, emotional, psychological connection to this human form. That alone healed my wounds. All the chattering of the mind, the repeating of offenses of others, and the storyline we all cling to evaporated instantly.
A Different Perspective: I try to remember that perspective as I journey through life. Whenever I am caught up in the drama of “she said this, he did this, and then they all did this,” I take a break and wonder what those situations will look like or if they will matter at all on my death bed.
I wonder if those situations will materialize during my life review. If I was the one who was wronged, these situations probably won’t be in my life review. The beauty and compassion of God is stunning and deeply loving. God doesn’t replay the things that harmed us. We do that to ourselves countless times while in form, but part of freedom is loving yourself enough to begin untangling and disconnecting from your wounds.
Goodness: I know that on the other side, I will look at my life to see if I eventually used the situations of my life to be better to others. Did I continue to increase my ability to do good in this world no matter how people treated me? Did I find more ways to be joyful, more ways to be whole, more ways to be lighthearted and uplift others? Did I make my interactions about healing and helping others? Did I add goodness to the world?
Did I deeply enjoy my time on this earth? Did I play like a child? How often did I stand in wonder and awe at the beauty of nature? Did I love as often as I could, even if that love was love for myself and a bird flying by me? Did I use my intuition, my wisdom, my bravery, and my connection to the other side? Did I love more than I thought I could when I first began this journey?
Did I retain some of my innocence? Did I try to fashion myself as the hero of a situation with words, false and true, or did I simply do what is right and true? Did I leave when I should leave? Stay when I should stay? Did I climb to the top of a mountain, breathe deeply, and pull in a great stream of light from the heavens and send that light to every human being on the planet?
Did I do my best? Did you do your best?
If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation. — Jiddu Krishnamurti
The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed. Jiddu Krishnamurti