Update 1/19/19: My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now. It is a #1 new release in several categories. I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.
Anita Moorjani has amazing things to say about ego and connectedness to others. She talks about how we need both–a sensitivity to other’s experiences and an ability to embrace our ego. We need a healthy ego and healthy dose of empathy in order to function successfully. When one is out of balance, we don’t relate to the world harmonically.
Ego: The seed for growing a healthy ego might have been planted when I survived death and existed for a few moments in the presence of God. For the first time in my life, I felt better than o.k. I felt blessed just to be me, exactly how I am. I didn’t feel that I needed to change or improve anything. I could breathe with ease in the presence of God. I wish I could bottle that feeling and drink it daily myself and give everyone on the planet a big drink of “FINE EXACTLY AS YOU ARE.”
You don’t HAVE TO buy anything, improve anything, lose a certain number of pounds, take seven more classes. You don’t HAVE TO do anything to be fine exactly as you are. You can simply claim it and breathe this feeling in, deep inside of you. You can later buy, improve, lose, and take classes if all these activities give you more joy, health, and happiness, but you do not have to do anything to claim being loved. You are loved.
Moorjani writes, “”….as long as we are alive, breathing, and expressing through a physical body, the best thing we can do for ourselves and for those around us is to engage in life fully, embrace who we are, and express ourselves authentically. To me, being spiritual, and being ourselves is one and the same thing!”
All I can say is a big, “Amen.” Right after my NDE, nothing felt more holy and true than to be authentically me, rejoicing at being alive. Every book I read had great significance because I was reading it. Every single moment of my life was holy, simply because I was alive to experience it.
At my core, I know I am an expression of the divine, and so are you. Though sometimes love and light has to wiggle its way around cavernous wounds, the light and the truth always seeks to these heal wounds. It always seeks to make you freer. With greater love and more empathy for ourselves, we do find ways to let more light flow through us.
Empathy: I have always felt the feelings of others. Empathy/being an empath is a gift but a heavy one at times, especially when I have absorbed the negative emotions of others and not understood how to disconnect and practice more awareness of my own feelings.
In worst case scenarios, I’ve let energy vampires take away my good time and peace of mind. Luckily, there is so much information about how to identify energy vampires and deal with them.
Ralph Smart’s video has great ideas such as blasting energy vampires with your light or simply limiting the time and attention you give them.
The idea of energetically protecting myself from negative energy never worked as much as being someone who could blast light (with words or with energy) into a negative situation and change that situation so that others might learn how to be more loving and awakened.
In some cases, I had to learn when it was time to fold and walk away/run away from situations/people. A healthy ego allows you to draw boundaries with people and protect yourself from harm. Empathy is sometimes what you have for yourself simply for having survived what you have survived; it also allows you to help others in similar situations.
Love: We all have the capacity to be empaths. There is so much joy in being wide open with love for oneself and for others, and it is the best way to live. We all have the capacity to have a healthy sense of ego and walk through this world in a way that allows us to be incredibly kind and self-protective.
You deserve goodness, and you deserve to be the embodiment of love. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.