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Life-Review: One of the common experiences during a near-death experience is a brief or extended cinematic view of one’s life. Seeing our connection to others and seeing life through the vision of another person is a powerful lesson. During my life review, I saw into the hearts and minds of people I had not known very well. In life, I had judged them as not particularly interesting for a variety of superficial reasons. During my life review, I clearly witnessed that a good heart and spiritual connection made these people very beautiful and precious to God.
I learned from that one scene in my life review to connect more frequently with people around me and to see people’s hearts, not their outward appearances, their accomplishments, their money, their charisma, etc. For instance, wealth can be a tool to bring more goodness and prosperity to many people, or it can be used to use and manipulate others. There is nothing negative about accomplishments, money, or power, but the heart matters more. Just like the line in the song “Desperado,” it is important to remember that “The Queen of Hearts is always your best bet.” The same applies for the King of Hearts.
My life review was quick and zeroed in only on what I should learn and what I could do better in life. I judged myself and my actions mainly because I could see into the hearts and minds of others and observed my limited thinking. God seemed to be guiding this life review and let me feel what I needed to feel from these scenes. I understood that people I had written off had love and concern for my well-being, and I wished that I had been more open and kinder to them both in my thoughts and in my actions. I saw that God sees our hearts much more than anything else.
According to the website www.nderf.com, there are four categories of life review descriptions. “NDErs categorized them based on 1) how the life review physically happened; 2) content; 3) aftereffects; and 4) other. Many described the life review like a re-run of a play, a film, or watching it on-screen. Others commented on the content of the life review. NDErs generally noted that they were the ones who judged themselves. During the process, they saw the good, the bad, and cause and effect of their choices. Many reported that they had a review of feelings, rather than a review of events. Some say that their review consisted of feeling others reactions to their earthly actions. The other large category were the aftereffects. Not only did participants state that it was important to love and help others, but they also indicated that their relationship with God/Jesus was more important to them. NDErs appreciated life more, and stated that it was important to have a sense of purpose. The smallest category was ‘other’ in which NDErs reported not learning anything or they had a life review but couldn’t remember it.” (Quote taken from www.nderf.com)
Throughout my life since the NDE, I have tried to be more open and supportive of others. I don’t judge people in the same, superficial ways that I once did. We all are works in progress, but I know that lesson was catered especially for me at that time in my life. Young people can be overly concerned with fads, fashions, musical tastes, literature, and sub-cultures in a way that doesn’t matter as much as we get older.
The heart, however, is the gem, the treasure, the best bet.
When Carl Jung asked Chief Mountain Lake why he thought all white people are mad, Mountain Lake replied, ‘They say they think with their heads.’ “’Why of course, says Jung, ‘What do you think with?’ “’We think here,’ says Chief Mountain Lake, indicating his heart.
Let us all think more frequently with our hearts.