Day One From the Annual Near-Death Experience Online Summit!

Hi Beautiful Light-Filled Souls,

Thanks for participating in the live online near-death experience summit this year! If you were not able to make it, I decided to keep Day One available on my YouTube channel. I hope you enjoy the messages from near-death experiencers and the healings at the end of the day. It starts at about minute 8:05. 

I am just one person organizing these events and producing them, and my latest YouTube video is about letting go and the spiritual lessons of surrender. This year is my last to produce this event! You would think as a near-death experiencer that I would be great at letting go since I experienced the bliss of that transition to the other side and felt absolutely no remorse about leaving the physical realm. There was so much joy, wonder, and excitement behind the veil.  It felt like being birthed into the spiritual realm.

However, here in the physical realm, I still suffer from loss and grief. I know how painful it can be to let go of pets, loved ones, relationships, jobs, dreams, goals, plans, and the sweetest of hopes, but sometimes it is important to do this to find the joy and magic in what comes next!

I’m deeply grateful for the comments from people about how their faith has deepened, how they are certain of the afterlife after watching these videos, and how they have experienced healing. People spoke of their creativity being ignited and much more.  Connecting with the viewers has been a joyous four years of production. I’m so grateful for your support and that I was able to spread light this way for the past four summers.

However, like any business venture, if it isn’t sustainable, then it is time to do something else. I am embracing what will be new in my life and walking into the future with the best of intentions and as much light as I can channel into this world.

Since this is my last online near-death experience summit, I want everyone to see the great talks from Dr. Villodo, Lisa Romano, Brooke Grove, Dr. Sharon Prentice and many more! Many of the speakers talked about grief, healing, recovery from narcissistic abuse, connection to guides and angels, and shifts in consciousness.

If you would like to purchase the package which contains the videos and audios of the pre-recorded videos and live videos, here is that link. The Coupon Code is LASTSUMMIT40 and this makes the entire package only $40 dollars. Once you purchase the package, please remember your login and sign in here to see all the videos and audios. https://www.globalascension.network/login

If you purchase the package, you will also have the link to join my community meetings on specific Wednesday evenings. I have guest speakers join, and I do group readings, group theta healings, and learn from you! See the last link in the recordings for more information about that and the zoom link. If you are only interested in the spiritual community, the first month is free, and here is that link! https://www.globalascension.network/offers/NLhSG4CR/checkout

I hope you all have more moments of living fully and living passionately! And, I hope all that is lost is a great learning tool and comes back to you in one form or another. 

All we take with us is love, and I have loved all the beautiful days of these online summits and talking with all the inspiring speakers.

many blessings,

Tricia Barker

WFAA Good Morning Texas Segment

I’m grateful to the reporter Paige McCoy Smith for covering my near-death experience story and my book on Good Morning Texas. We filmed at the beautiful Fort Worth Botanical Gardens, and this setting helped convey the message from my near-death experience to remind people to go to nature to relieve stress and reconnect with inner peace.

Here’s a link to the story.

It was windy and there were leaf blowers, but we got that filming done anyway!

Coast to Coast Interview, Midnight in the Desert, and Sunny in Seattle

I’ve had a fun week of interviews with three amazing radio show hosts. I am grateful for the interview with George Noory on Coast to Coast AM earlier this week, and I wanted to say a few things to the callers who had questions for me.

First of all, thank you for sharing your experiences.  I was moved by your stories. I would love to answer more of your questions and connect you with other experiencers and researchers at The Second Annual Online Near-Death Experience Summit.  Please check out this online event if you are interested in near-death experiences and near-death experience research.

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To learn more about The Second Annual Online Near-Death Experience Summit, please click here. https://www.theuniversityofheaven.com/NDE-Summit2019

Secondly, there was a woman who called in who was searching for her purpose and had been through many hardships.  I didn’t have much time to meditate on her situation, but I saw that on an energetic level that she is giving away too much of her personal energy. Matt Kahn’s latest video titled “You Are The Way” might help her and other empaths find a better balance between taking care of their own needs and caring for this world.

Also, a man called in who recently lost his brother.  I didn’t have time for a full reading, but I hope he might consider reading Annie Kagan’s book The Afterlife of Billy Fingers. From what I hear from my father and others in the afterlife, there is much learning that can still be done after death. There is much light, love and understanding that can occur in the afterlife. Healing between family members can occur even after a death, so do not give up on the light of understanding, forgiveness, and release.

If you aren’t familiar with Sunny in Seattle, you can listen to my episode with her and some of her other interviews.  She asked great questions about my book that I haven’t been asked before, and she asked me about my work with Lisa Smartt and Raymond Moody on The Second Annual Online Near-death Experience Summit.  Here are two video clips from Lisa Smartt and Raymond Moody’s talks.

I also really enjoyed my interview with Dave Schrader on Midnight in the Desert

Thanks for the calls from across the country.  I especially loved hearing about your own out-of-body experiences and spiritually transformative moments.  Many blessings to you all!

 

Interview With Kenneth Ring

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Update 1/19/18:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformationis available for pre-order.  It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love your support of a pre-order.  My aim is to help make near-death experiences more mainstream.

I am pleased to have had lunch with Ken Ring and exchanged many emails before providing you the transcript of this interview.

For more information about Kenneth Ring’s brilliant books and research, please check out his website. As a professor of psychology at the University of Connecticut, Ken Ring was able to build upon the work of Raymond Moody in scientifically structured studies of 102 near-death survivors. He is well-known for his ground-breaking research of investigating NDEs among blind persons in his book Mindsight. Ken Ring is the co-founder and past president of the International Association for Near-Death Studies (IANDS) and is the founding editor of the Journal of Near-Death Studies. He has published several near-death experience related books, including Life at Death (1980), Heading Toward Omega (1984), The Omega Project: Near-Death Experiences, UFO Encounters, and Mind at Large (1992), and his most well-known and celebrated NDE book, Lessons from the Light (2000).

(Tricia Barker) In all your research, what about NDEs has surprised you the most?

(Ken Ring) Since I am a baseball fan, I’ll take the liberty of throwing you a curve ball.  What has surprised me the most is the enduring fascination the public has had with NDEs.  I believe Raymond Moody whose bestselling book, Life After Life, introduced the world to the NDE in 1975, once told me that he thought it would be just a passing fad.  I got involved with my NDE work the next year, and here we (and I) are more than forty years later, and it’s still in the public eye.  Amazing.  Some kind of fad.

(TB) What’s the most impressive veridical NDE you’ve come across?

(KR) Actually, if any readers are really interested in this question, they should consult the recent book entitled The Self Does Not Die:  Verified Paranormal Phenomena from Near-Death Experiences by Titus Rivas, et al.  There are scads of such cases there.

Here, I’ll just mention one I investigated years ago at Hartford Hospital.  The story in brief goes like this:  A nurse was interviewing a patient who had had an NDE.  She claimed that during her NDE, she floated out of her body until she was above the hospital.  She happened look down and noticed a single red shoe on the roof.

As it happened, a resident physician and a skeptic was present during the interview.  He decided to show that the woman had been hallucinating.

“I’ll be right back,” he said.  He was going up to inspect the roof.

Some minutes later, he returned (I like to imagine “red-faced) with the red shoe.

For years, when I was lecturing on NDEs and recounting this story, at the end I held up a red shoe and announced dramatically:  “And here’s the shoe!”

Gasps from the audience.  “Not really,” I confessed, “this is just a red shoe I happened to find on the side of road”.  Laughter, a few boos.

(TB) Your book “Mindsight” that you wrote with Sharon Cooper talks about the NDEs of   people blind from birth. Can you share some of your findings on those cases?

Well, actually, since it’s the details of these cases that are so fascinating, I’d really recommend that people interested in this subject simply read chapter three in my book, Lessons from the Light, where I discuss this research in accessible non-technical language.

But, briefly, one of my most interesting cases was that of a woman named Vicki whom I was able to meet and interview in her home in Seattle, the beginning of a treasured friendship.

Vicki (whose last name was Umipeg when I knew her) was very articulate and you can probably find her somewhere on YouTube where she tells her story.  Here I can give only the barest details. (This might be the link to Vicki’s story).

Vicki was born blind, but had two NDEs about which she said “Those two experiences were the only time I could ever relate to seeing, and to what light was, because I experienced it.  I was able to see.”

She went on to describe a number of objects in her immediate visual field (including aspects of her own body) before having a classic Moody-type NDE in an otherworldly environment, which she could also describe in visual terms.  Furthermore, she had these experiences before Moody published his book in 1975.

How can people blind form birth actually see and what kind “seeing” is it, since it can’t possibly involve one’s eyes?   Those are the questions I explore and try to answer in my books on the subject.  This is a tease, but you don’t have to buy my any of books to find out.  Just go to your library and find them there!

(TB) How has your research affected your life personally? 

(KR) Well, it’s made me rich from my royalties.  (I wish – just kidding.)  For another, for many years, most of my friends were to be found among on the once nearly dead.

All right, if I must be serious for a moment, I would have to say that having spent so much time with near-death experiencers and writing extensively about NDEs, I know I have come to share many of their attitudes, beliefs and values.  I also think this is the common experience of most, if not all, researchers like me who have been privileged to know or hear from hundreds of NDErs. You can’t help to see the world through their eyes.

(TB) What mystifies you the most about NDEs?

(KR) What still astounds me is the evidence from NDE research that people not only have life reviews but sometimes life previews.  That is, in some cases, and I describe of number of such instances in my book, Heading Toward Omega, NDErs get glimpses of events that are to occur in their lives after their NDE, such as seeing the person they are going to marry – and these events then do indeed take place.  It’s as if there is already a kind of trajectory of one’s life, and for a moment outside of time “during” an NDE, one can get flashes of what’s to come.

Think of it this way.  You are a character in an author’s novel.  As the character, you have no clue as to what your future holds.  But suppose, all of a sudden, you were to enter the mind of the author and thereby see your fate – for example, that you will marry at 26, have three children, but then divorce after which your ex dies, leaving you to care for your kids.

It makes one wonder whether we all have a kind of life plan already in the works and though it may not be absolutely fixed in its details, it nevertheless may be a kind of blueprint for what we are likely to experience.

That’s certainly something to conjure with!

(TB)  I believe there is a life plan in place for each of us. Robert Schwartz in Your Soul’s Plan writes beautifully about this topic. When God showed me a river during my near-death experience, I thought the river might a metaphor for the flow of life. I saw many souls that needed to be reminded to turn on their lights and live in the flow of light. Light can be a metaphor for higher learning, knowledge, connection to God/Unconditional Love, and connection to one’s purpose.

Fourteen years after my NDE, I was shocked to see that same river from one of the 7th floor classrooms where I teach at the Trinity River Campus for TCC.  The river might be both a concrete place and a metaphor, but knowing that I was meant to be at this campus made my teaching experiences there all the more meaningful.

Also, as a young child, I knew that I would send light to the world through meditation during my final years on earth. I didn’t even know what transcendental meditation was at five years of age, but I understood the concept. When I run out of strength to write and speak, I can’t think of a more beautiful way to conclude my life than to simply pray for this world and send out my love energetically. There is so much pain on this planet that needs transformation. I know that you have helped many students in your classrooms simply by opening their minds to the topic of NDEs.

(TB) Why does it tend to take years for experiencers to fully integrate their experience?

(KR) Of course there are many reasons for this.  I would refer readers to the books of PMH Atwater who has dealt with this issue extensively.  She finds that it often takes about seven years.  But consider:  The NDE often turns the individual upside down and inside out, so to speak.  It involves a radical transformation of the personality – that is, it goes to one’s roots and uproots them.  Nothing is the same as it was.  You can’t go back to being the person you were, but in order to become the person that the NDE seems to engender, it takes time.  It is often painful (especially in terms of one’s relationships) and involves a complex maturational process that often does indeed take years.  Talk to some NDErs; that’s the best way to understand what this process involves and why it takes so long.

(TB) What did you find are the negative effects or a downside to having an NDE?

(KR) If you have an NDE, you may suddenly become very psychic and find yourself privy to information about people that is disturbing.  You may be aware of their thoughts and feelings.  You may have foreknowledge of serious accidents, such as airplane crashes or space shuttle disasters.  You may develop heightened sensitivities to chemicals or environmental pollutants.  You may become a menace around electronic devices, which continue to malfunction in your presence, etc.  You may be so changed that your friends and family have a difficult time relating to you.  Oh, there are so many costs to having an NDE, but most NDErs would say, despite all that, they will always be grateful for their NDE because, God knows, it is the blessing beyond price.

(TB):  I agree that the psychic flashes can be disruptive, especially if you don’t have spiritual guidance from someone who understands your experiences. Most people prove quite skeptical or simply want answers to their romantic or financial questions. I certainly didn’t find anyone right after my NDE who could help me make sense of random psychic phenomena.

Being intuitive can be a curse because ignorance often really is bliss.  You don’t want to know that the guy sitting next to you on the bus should be in jail or that the person you are dating and think is an amazing human being is a lying to you or hiding significant parts of themselves.  You might think you want to know, but it gets depressing to have the mysteries revealed too soon. For me, the psychic flashes seemed to simply show that I was outside of the natural flow of time. I think near-death experiencers relationship to time changes after their experience.

(TB) Have you found that NDEs in the U.S. the same or different compared to other countries?

(KR) That’s a simple question, but the answer to it is complex.  “Other countries” is a very heterogeneous category!  But since we haven’t got all day and since I am not conducting an academic seminar, let me just offer a simplistic analogy.

Consider the human body.  Of course, there are thin ones, fat ones, beauties and monsters, coming in all manner of colors and these days fifty shades of gender.  Nevertheless, the human body has the same underlying form and is instantly recognizable.

However, if you travel into different and diverse cultures, the outward appearance of the human body, in terms of clothing, decoration, hairstyle, etc., is enormously varied.

So it is with NDEs: the underlying form is often to be found, but there are marked cultural variations.  In the U.S. and Western countries generally, we often find the classic Moody-type NDE.  But outside of that geographical domain, variation is the rule.  Every NDE seems to be an amalgam of the basic archetypal pattern of the NDE, the individual’s make-up and the culture in which he or she is embedded.  In short, it ain’t the same everywhere.

(TB) What are some of your other interests outside of NDEs?

(KR) Oh, I have plenty of interests quite apart from NDEs.  In fact, it was only after ceasing to be actively involved in NDE research and shooting off my mouth about it, beginning around the year 2000, that I was able to fully engage some of these passions.  Classical music was one such.  I even wrote a couple books about classical composers (and their muses) and worked one screenplay about one of them, Camille Saint-Saëns, which predictably went nowhere, but I had a ball working on it.  About ten years ago, I became very interested in the issue of justice for the Palestinian people, traveled to the West Bank, and eventually collaborated with a Palestinian friend of mine on a book about the contemporary lives of Palestinians.  (If you’re interested, it was called Letters from Palestine.)  And then there is tennis – for more than the last decade, I have  been a rabid Fedhead – that is, a fan and devoted follower of the incomparable Roger Federer.

But I still have interests in other phenomena related to NDEs.  One, for example, is called terminal lucidity.  It refers to a situation like this. Let’s say you have an aged relative – let’s make him your grandfather – who has had Alzheimer’s for years during which time he has never been able to speak.  Whoever he was seems to have disappeared leaving only the shell of his body.  But then, astonishingly, shortly before his death, his eyes brighten, he is able to talk about as lucidly as ever, and is able say how much he has always loved you, etc.  He’s clearly back in his full and familiar personality.

You are amazed and thrilled – but then, he becomes unconscious and not long afterward dies.

What to make of this?  Was he there all along and just not able to break through until the end?  How is such a thing possible when his brain has suffered irreversible damage?

You’d be surprised how often this sort of thing occurs, even though until recently there hasn’t been much research on it.  But I’ve been in touch with some of the leading researchers of terminal lucidity in this country and abroad and have a keen interest in their work.   Heck, if I weren’t pushing 83 and hampered by the trials of creeping decrepitude, that’s what I’d be researching now!

(TB) Fascinating!  Thank you so much for taking the time to share your ideas with me.  Your book Lessons from the Light meant a great deal to me for many reasons, but one of the main reasons is that I found your work with the college population fascinating.  I have told my NDE in many education settings, and your research gave NDErs greater credibility in academic settings. Thank you again for your time and wonderful, witty insights.

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Learn more about Kenneth Ring

One of Ken Ring’s conclusions in Heading Toward Omega is that Near-death experiences may be part of an evolutionary thrust toward higher consciousness for all humanity. Thus they may foreshadow the birth of a new planetary consciousness as we head toward Omega, the final goal of human evolution.

 

The Reality of the Afterlife and The Importance of Spreading Love

Update on 1/19/19:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now. It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.  The Second Annual Near-Death Experience Summit will occur on June 23, 2019.  Stay tuned for more details!

I hope you are joining us (in only twelve days on June 16, 2018) to hear eleven near-death experience speakers talking about unconditional love, God, healing, and profound shifts you can make in your life at The First Annual Near-Death Experience Online Summit. 

Most of all, this day and movement is about bringing more heaven to earth in a myriad of ways. All healing starts with centering love for yourself and all that you have survived. Join the conversation…. The basic ticket costs only $10 so that everyone can join. Here is the link for more information about the online event.

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Superpowers Interview

Update on 1/19/19:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now. It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.

In this episode of Superpowers, Karl Fink interviewed me about my NDE and the major life transformations that can occur because of spiritually transformative experiences and NDEs.  I was pleased to get the chance to talk more about mediumship and how close connections with one’s ancestor’s can help guide us and protect us in real, tangible ways. Karl is a wonderful interviewer, and it was a joy to be on his show.  Check out Steaming for the Soul for tons of inspiring speakers and events.

 

 

Quotes That Inspired Me

Update on 1/19/19:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now. It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.

Here are a few quotes that inspired me while writing my memoir.

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Interview with Daniel Giroux: Love, Joy, and Healing

Daniel Giroux’s near-death experience takeaway can be summed up in a few words—love, joy, and healing.  Of course, each near-death experience has far-reaching aftereffects and often changes the experiencer’s life dramatically.  I hope you enjoy his story and the discussion afterwards about energy work. Daniel is a friend of mine and a mentor.  I feel blessed to have met him on this journey.

I am especially excited to share this conversation with you because Daniel and I both meditated before we talked, and we made an intention that our discussion might be of benefit to others.  I asked him to give me a reading at the end of the video because I have recently lost a dear friend and wanted more closure.  We didn’t film the rest of that reading because Daniel picked up on a very sensitive time in my life when my friend was there for me.  I recalled the moment vividly, and it made me realize that in one of my darkest times I had an empathetic friend beside me who felt my pain on a deep level and loved me through that moment.  Jokingly, my friend (who is enjoying the afterlife and flying free) asked for a bigger part in my manuscript, and he deserves it. I guess I have one more scene to write in a book that I thought was completed.  It wasn’t complete without one more scene of unconditional love.  We can never have too much of that in this world.

Just before posting this video, I thanked Daniel’s guide, and she sent me someone incredibly special. I heard Louise Hay tell me, “You did very well.  This is what the world needs more of—healing.”   I felt shocked to hear Louise Hay’s familiar voice, and I feel like I am walking on air tonight.  May you each be blessed with love and joy!

Here is Daniel’s blog if you would like to contact him.

A Spiritual Perspective on Depression and Suicidal Idealization

Update on 1/19/19:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now. It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.  My memoir does reflect on my suicide attempt and how the love of the afterlife later showed me how to bring more love and healing into my life.  I want to share that healing with others.

A Spiritual Perspective on Depression and Suicidal Idealization

With the holidays coming up soon, I thought it might be important to talk about depression and suicide and offer my perspective.  I know that many people who have survived abuse, neglect, or trauma in their families are often ostracized by these family members.  Holidays become all the more of a painful reminder of how alone they might feel in the world.  Those who are awakening and realizing spiritual truths that may transcend the perspectives of their family members might also feel some disconnection.

Whatever your situation might be during the holidays, I hope that you might treat yourself with great love and compassion during this time of year and through out the rest of the year.

I have a unique perspective on suicide because I viewed my suicide attempt while in the afterlife.  At the end of college, I had a profound near-death experience after a car wreck and was clinically dead for over two minutes during emergency spinal surgery.

During my life review, I saw my suicide attempt (which occurred a few months prior to my near-death experience) through the loving gaze of God. God had enormous love and compassion for me during this sad time in my life.  I felt completely supported by this loving force of God, and I could hear some of God’s thoughts about that time in my life.

When God viewed my suicide attempt, I felt that God wanted me to love myself more and know that I am deeply loved and supported by the universe, even when it does not seem that way.  God wanted me to place a high priority on my health and healing.   There were a myriad of choices available to me besides making an attempt on my life. I saw all these choices spin out around me as various light-filled paths.  I could have contacted friends, acquaintances, certain family members, called a hotline, looked for free or affordable resources through my university, searched for help at churches, or joined a recovery group.  There were many options I had besides the one that I picked in that moment.

At twenty-one, I did not know how to walk through the painful parts of my life, but if I reached out to others, I might have made a choice other than swallowing a ridiculous amount of painkillers and washing these painkillers down with a decanter of whiskey.  Amazingly, I woke up 36 hours later and realized that I had vomited, which probably saved my life.

At twenty-one, I didn’t realize that I could’ve tried new things I had never tried before.  Help might not have come from the people I wanted it to come from, but help and healing was available to me, and it is available to you too.  If you are suffering from a deep depression, keep walking through the pain and know that you are not alone on this journey, no matter how alone you might feel at the moment.  Find connection somewhere.

Through my life review, I saw that God also wanted me to be kind to others and ask them more questions about their lives.  An obsessive focus on myself led to greater depression and sadness.  Getting out of myself and listening to others would have brought more joy to their lives and to mine.

Suicidal plans and thoughts should be taken seriously.  If you are very close to taking your life, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.  If you are not in the U.S., please look up a local or national hotline and talk with someone immediately.  Utilize all resources available to you, and reach out to someone you know who is a safe, caring person in your life.  If you are not suffering from depression but know someone who is, encourage this person to take healing, self-care, and therapy seriously.

If you suffer from depression but have energy to focus on your health and want to apply the deeply loving force of God to your own situation, I can offer you some ideas.  Every journey is an individual one, so please keep searching for what works for you.  These are only suggestions.

  1. Self-Love: Read everything you can get your hands on about self-love.  Louise Hay is a great resource with many mantras that might begin to change some of your negative thought patterns.  Ingest a daily diet of uplifting material—posts, podcasts, videos, and books.  I can personally recommend the book How to Love Yourself (And Sometimes Other People) by Lodro Rinzler and Meggan Watterson, especially if you struggle with romantic relationship difficulties.  Here is a blog post I have written about self-love.  Self-love is essential and necessary.  Too often we are much hard on ourselves when we could offer ourselves great compassion instead.
  2. Start a Healing Journey: Every healing journey is individual, but consider researching diets and supplements that can help your mood.  Reference books like Prescriptions for Natural Healing might be a place to begin.  Focus on simple healthy pleasures each day.  Exercise and get vitamin D.  Try new things.   Depending on your financial situation, invest in a therapist and try out various healing modalities.  Everything from eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) which might help with PTSD to energetic healing modalities might offer you relief.   Addressing subconscious blocks through modalities like Psych K can be beneficial. Even if you do not have the funds for some of these modalities, you might be able to trade with certain practitioners if you have skills in a certain area.  You can learn specific yoga moves or Tai Chi exercises online that can improve your mood.  You might also be able to learn more about healing modalities and practices, and find comfort in the talks and free information from healers.  Start with therapy and work outward in the directions that you are led.
  3. Commit to a Spiritual Practice: Commit to a support group, recovery group, spiritual practice, church, or gathering that makes you feel connected to love.  Do not go somewhere or stay somewhere where you feel judged and bogged down by the negativity of others.  During my near-death experience, I clearly saw that love is all that matters.  Go somewhere where you feel love, optimism, joy, and release from your struggles.  I highly recommend a meditation practice, but like a healing journey, a spiritual journey is an individual one.  I can only emphasize the importance of commitment and practice.  A spiritual practice is beneficial when you commit to it over the long haul and through the many ups and downs of life.
  4. Volunteer: There is usually someone who is less fortunate than you.  Even if you are in a dire position in life, you can volunteer at an organization that already helps you.  While volunteering, you might meet others and listen to them with love and with hope.   The point of volunteering is to do something to make the lives of others easier or better in some way.  As you give what you can give, your troubles lessen and you feel connected to a greater whole.  Like exercise or any other activity that we know is good for us but we resist, volunteering can have a profound effect on our consciousness.  When we feel useful or helpful, our self-esteem and self-concept changes for the better.  Mostly, we simply find joy in being connected to others versus suffering in isolation.  We are communal and need one another.  Find safe people and form bonds.  If you are too anxiety ridden to volunteer somewhere, then find a way to connect with others and do not suffer alone.
  5. Feel the Love of God: Take time in your day to imagine the force of God that near-death experiencers talk about with longing and love.  Try to imagine the most loving force on earth.  What would that feel like to you?  Write down what you would like God to be like for you and what you would like to feel from God right now.  Take those positive feelings and multiply them by 70 million.  Believe in this love as a reality and not a concept.  Close your eyes and imagine what this love would feel like.  Bring this love into every single one of your cells.  Fill your body with a glowing light that is the purest form of love imaginable.  This is your birthright and your true essence.  Know it.  Share it.  Believe it.
  6. Gratitude can rewire your brain:  Keep a gratitude journey and write down what you are grateful for each day.   Watch this Ted Talk and try some of the other suggestions at the end for creating more happiness in your life.  Hopefully, this speaker makes you chuckle a bit.  Laughter is one of my favorite medicines.

The Life Review in a NDE

Update 1/19/19:  My memoir, Angels in the OR: What Dying Taught Me About Healing, Survival, and Transformation, can be pre-ordered now.  It is a #1 new release in several categories.  I would love it if you helped me make near-death experiences more mainstream.

Life-Review:  One of the common experiences during a near-death experience is a brief or extended cinematic view of one’s life.  Seeing our connection to others and seeing life through the vision of another person is a powerful lesson.  During my life review, I saw into the hearts and minds of people I had not known very well.  In life, I had judged them as not particularly interesting for a variety of superficial reasons.  During my life review, I clearly witnessed that a good heart and spiritual connection made these people very beautiful and precious to God.

I learned from that one scene in my life review to connect more frequently with people around me and to see people’s hearts, not their outward appearances, their accomplishments, their money, their charisma, etc.  For instance, wealth can be a tool to bring more goodness and prosperity to many people, or it can be used to use and manipulate others. There is nothing negative about accomplishments, money, or power, but the heart matters more.   Just like the line in the song “Desperado,” it is important to remember that “The Queen of Hearts is always your best bet.”   The same applies for the King of Hearts.

My life review was quick and zeroed in only on what I should learn and what I could do better in life.   I judged myself and my actions mainly because I could see into the hearts and minds of others and observed my limited thinking.  God seemed to be guiding this life review and let me feel what I needed to feel from these scenes.  I understood that people I had written off had love and concern for my well-being, and I wished that I had been more open and kinder to them both in my thoughts and in my actions.  I saw that God sees our hearts much more than anything else.

According to the website www.nderf.com, there are four categories of life review descriptions.  “NDErs categorized them based on  1) how the life review physically happened; 2) content; 3) aftereffects; and 4) other.  Many described the life review like a re-run of a play, a film, or watching it on-screen.  Others commented on the content of the life review.  NDErs generally noted that they were the ones who judged themselves.  During the process, they saw the good, the bad, and cause and effect of their choices.  Many reported that they had a review of feelings, rather than a review of events.  Some say that their review consisted of feeling others reactions to their earthly actions.  The other large category were the aftereffects.  Not only did participants state that it was important to love and help others, but they also indicated that their relationship with God/Jesus was more important to them.  NDErs appreciated life more, and stated that it was important to have a sense of purpose.  The smallest category was ‘other’ in which NDErs reported not learning anything or they had a life review but couldn’t remember it.”  (Quote taken from www.nderf.com)

Throughout my life since the NDE, I have tried to be more open and supportive of others.  I don’t judge people in the same, superficial ways that I once did.  We all are works in progress, but I know that lesson was catered especially for me at that time in my life. Young people can be overly concerned with fads, fashions, musical tastes, literature, and sub-cultures in a way that doesn’t matter as much as we get older.

The heart, however, is the gem, the treasure, the best bet.  

When Carl Jung asked Chief Mountain Lake why he thought all white people are mad, Mountain Lake replied, ‘They say they think with their heads.’  “’Why of course, says Jung, ‘What do you think with?’  “’We think here,’ says Chief Mountain Lake, indicating his heart.

Let us all think more frequently with our hearts.

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